Table of Contents
Acknowledgements......................................................................................................vi
Introduction.................................................................................................................vii
Chapter 1 - Overview and Background..............................................................1
- Overview of the Key DNMS Protocols & Procedures
- Taking a History
- The Resource Development Protocol
- The Switching the Dominance Protocol
- The Attachment Needs Ladder Questionnaire
- The Conference Room Protocol
- The Needs Meeting Protocol
- Follow-up and Repeat the Process
- DNMS Limitations
- Background Material
- Developmental Stages
- Hierarchy of Needs
- Ego State Theory
- Wounded Ego States Formed by the Firing of Mirror Neurons
- Healing by Neural Integration
- Alternating Bilateral Stimulation
- How Long Does DNMS Therapy Take?
- Chapter Summary
- Chapter 1 Notes & References
Chapter 2 - Ego State Therapy Basics.........................................................17
- Ego State Therapy Background
- Working with Ego States
- Executive Control & Recognizing Ego States in Clients
- Talking to Individual Parts of Self
- Differing Points of View & Internal Conflicts
- Tucking In
- System-Wide Announcement
- DNMS Ego State Classifications
- Reactive Parts
- Introjects
- Reactive Parts and Introjects Interact
- What Happened in Childhood…
- What Happens in Adulthood…
- The True Source of a Current Problem…
- Healing Wounded Parts of Self
- Healing Maladaptive Introjects
- Healing Reactive Parts
- The Benefits of Healing Wounded Parts of Self
- Trauma-Related Introjects
- Unmet Needs before a Trauma Happens
- Unmet Needs during a Trauma
- Unmet Needs after a Trauma Happens
- Identifying Trauma-Related Introjects for Processing
- Other Information about Reactive Parts and Introjects
- A Part of Self Can Appear as a Metaphor
- What is a Role Model?
- Introject Mask versus Introject Costume
- Combination Introjects
- Adulthood Role Models Can Be Introjected
- Groups of People Can Be Introjected
- Observed Victims Can Be Introjected
- Prenatal Introjection
- Ego State Therapy Controversy
- Chapter Summary
- Chapter 2 Notes and References
Chapter 3 - The Resource Development Protocol.......................................37
- Protocol Overview
- The Nurturing Adult Self and Protective Adult Self
- Discussing Familiar Caregiving Experiences
- Connecting to the Nurturing and Protective Adult Self
- Mental Pictures of the Nurturing and Protective Adult Self
- The Spiritual Core Self
- Discussing Spiritual Beliefs & Peak Spiritual Experiences
- Connecting to the Spiritual Core Self
- Strengthening the Spiritual Core Self
- Mental Picture of the Spiritual Core Self
- The Healing Circle of Resources
- Complications and Processing Blocks
- Preparing Clients to Disclose Processing Blocks
- Checking for Blocks before Beginning a Meditation
- Describing Up Front the Switching the Dominance Protocol to Clear Blocks
- Cloning the Resources
- A Typical Resource Development Protocol Session
- Chapter Summary
- Chapter 3 Notes and References
Chapter 4 - The Switching the Dominance Protocol...................................56
- Protocol Overview
- Switching the Dominance to Treat a Simple Problem
- Asking About the Client’s Experience
- Connecting to Resources
- Inviting Parts of Self Forward
- Classifying a Part that Comes Forward
- When a Reactive Part Appears Keep Looking for the Presumptive Introject
- Collecting Information about a Presumptive Introject
- Getting and Rating the Presumptive Introject Message
- Switching the Dominance Protocol
- Step 1. Permission to Speak to Child Behind the Mask
- Step 2. Welcoming the Child Behind the Mask
- Step 3. Contrasting the True Nature of the Child with the Dysfunction of the Mask
- Step 4. Getting the Child Part’s Age
- Step 5. Explaining the Illusion of Significance
- Step 6. Checking the Appearance of the Mask
- Step 7. Mini-Interventions Interventions Help Shift Dominance
- Step 8. Assessing the Mask’s Animation
- Step 9. Highlighting the Child Part’s Importance
- Step 10. Pocketing the Remains
- Step 11. Orienting the Child Part and Tucking In
- Step 12. Temporary Nature of the Shift
- Switching the Dominance to Treat a Simple Problem – Follow-up
- Other Protocol Issues
- Do Not Assault the Mask
- Working with Two or More Introjects at Once
- More than One Part of Self is Wearing an Introject Mask or Costume
- The Mask Disappears
- Re-Switching the Dominance
- Incomplete Switch
- Complications and Processing Blocks
- A Typical Switching the Dominance Protocol Session
- Example of a Simple Switching the Dominance Experience
- Example of a Complex Switching the Dominance Experience
- Chapter Summary
- Chapter 4 Notes
Chapter 5 - The Conference Room Protocol................................................83
- Protocol
- Finding Negative Beliefs Associated with a Specific Current Problem
- Finding Negative Beliefs Associated with Old Attachment Wounds
- The Attachment Needs Ladder
- Administering the Attachment Needs Ladder
- Conference Room Protocol
- Providing the Client a Big Picture Overview
- Step 1. Preparing the Client the First Time
- Step 2. Recording Information on the Conference Room Map
- Step 3. Connecting to Resources
- Step 4. Picturing the Conference Room
- Step 5. Checking for Processing Blocks
- Step 6. Inviting Parts Into the Conference Room
- Step 7. Engaging the Most Upset Child Part
- Step 8. Classifying the Part of Self that Appears Across the Table
- Step 9. Collecting Information about the Presumptive Introject
- Step 10. Switching the Dominance
- Step 11. Repeating Steps 7-10
- Step 12. Preparing for the Needs Meeting Protocol
- Preparing for the Needs Meeting Protocol
- Other Protocol Issues
- Target Flexibility
- Reactive Parts Disappear in the Conference Room
- Adult Parts Appear in the Conference Room
- Many Reactive Parts Appear
- Working with an Overwhelming Number of Introjects
- Resuming the Conference Room Protocol
- Starting the Needs Meeting Right Away After a Resumed Conference Room Protocol
- Attachment Needs Ladder Follow-up Anomalies
- Complications and Processing Blocks
- A Typical Attachment Needs Ladder & Conference Room Protocol Session
- Administering the Attachment Needs Ladder
- The Conference Room Protocol
- Chapter Summary
- Chapter 5 Notes and References
Chapter 6 - The Needs Meeting Protocol.....................................................114
- Overview
- The Needs Meeting Protocol
- Step 1. Connecting to Resources
- Step 2. Checking for Processing Blocks
- Step 3. Inviting the Child Part into the Healing Circle
- Step 4. Strengthening the Sense of Safety
- Step 5. Asking for a Generalization Effect
- Step 6. Explaining the Process
- Step 7. Meeting Needs
- Step 8. Processing Painful Emotions
- Step 9. Bonding with the Resources
- Step 10. Heightening Awareness of the Adult Body
- Step 11. Checking In
- Step 12. Returning to the Wounding Experiences
- Step 13. Returning to the Care of the Resources
- Step 14. Repeating Steps 12 & 13
- Step 15. Shifting Attention Back and Forth
- Step 16. Checking In
- Step 17. Strengthening a Positive Belief
- Step 18. Tucking In the Child Parts
- Step 19. Counting Up
- Step 20. Checking on the Outcome
- Other Protocol Issues
- Orienting Clients to the Needs Meeting Protocol
- Strengthening Positives with Alternating Bilateral Stimulation (ABS)
- Dialogue Between Child Parts and the Resources
- Child Parts Report Needs in the Negative
- Processing Other Painful Emotions
- Painful Emotions Arise Early in Step 7
- Needing Parents to Meet a Need
- Child Parts “Need” a Positive Trait
- If the Resources Had Been Your Parents Then…
- Getting the Strongest Positive Belief
- Interruption While Tucking In Child Parts
- Closing an Unfinished Protocol
- Resuming an Unfinished Protocol
- Complications and Processing Blocks
- A Typical Resource Development Protocol Session
- DNMS Needs Meeting Protocol: Session Notes
- Chapter Summary
- Chapter 6 Notes and References
Chapter 7 - Complications & Blocks..............................................................152
- Overview
- Inviting Clients to Disclose Processing Blocks
- General Complications
- Eliciting the Concern
- Classifying the Concern
- Handling Misunderstandings
- Handling Blocking Introjects
- Verifying All Blocks Have Been Cleared
- Two Paths to Resolving Blocks
- Applying the Adult Body Intervention
- Complications with the Resources
- Diagnosing Resource Complications
- Addressing Resource Complications
- Resource Development Protocol Complications
- Problems Discussing Caregiving Experiences
- Problems Discussing Specific Items on the Caregiver Skills List
- Problems with the Mental Pictures
- Difficulty Visualizing the Resources
- Provisional Resources
- Switching the Dominance Protocol Complications
- Problematic Introject Messages
- If Processing Stalls
- A Reactive Part Answers the Questions
- Enmeshment Reversal
- Problems Finding the Child Part Wearing the Mask (In Step 1)
- When a Child Part under the Mask is Also Reacting to It (In Step 1)
- Differentiating Reactive Mimics and Introjects (In Step 2)
- Problems Contrasting the Child’s Good True Nature with the Mask (In Step 3)
- The Mask Moves Away or Disappears Prematurely (In Step 6)
- Fear that Losing Interest in the Mask Means Losing Interest in the Caregiver (Step 10)
- Attachment Needs Ladder Complications
- Initial Rating Complications
- Follow-up Rating Complications
- Conference Room Protocol Complications
- Erecting a Glass Wall (In Step 5)
- No Reactive Parts Enter the Conference Room (In Step 6)
- Very Fearful Reactive Parts Appear (In Step 6)
- Confident Parts Appear (In Step 6)
- No Part Appears Across the Table (In Step 8)
- Needs Meeting Protocol Complications
- Fear of Losing a Familiar Sense of Identity
- Unclear Replies Require Further Investigation
- Aversive Reactions to the Processing
- Premature Empathy or Forgiveness for Wounding Role Models
- Wishful Thinking
- Child Parts are Fixated on the Past
- An Upset Adult Self Interrupts the Processing
- Problem Making an Initial Connection with the Resources (In Step 1)
- Needs Meeting Complication (In Step 7)
- Emotion-Processing Complications (In Step 8)
- Bonding Complications (In Step 9)
- End of Protocol Complications (In Step 16)
- Incomplete Processing
- Chapter Summary
- Chapter 7 Notes and References
Epilogue....................................................................................................................193
- After the DNMS
- After You Finish this Book
Appendix A: Glossary..........................................................................................195
Appendix B: Additional Background Material..........................................197
- Section 1: DNMS Journal Article Abstracts
- Section 2: Maslow Pyramid & Maslow/Erikson Chart
- Section 3: Background Material on Attachment
- Section 4: Background Material on Prenatal Introjection
- Section 5: Popular Ego State Psychotherapies
- Section 6: Typical Developmental Needs Table
- Section 7: Typical Misunderstandings That Block Processing & Suggestions for Correcting Them
Appendix C: Stabilizing Techniques for Unstable Clients...................214
Appendix D: Preparing Clients for the DNMS.........................................217
- Preparing Clients for the DNMS
- Screening Clients for the DNMS
- Explaining the DNMS to Clients
- Taking a History for the DNMS
- The Developmental Needs Meeting Strategy: What It Is and How It Works
- The Needs Meeting Protocol in Pictures
Appendix E: Therapist Worksheets & Forms...............................................228
- Resource Development Protocol Worksheet
- The Nurturing Adult Self & Protective Adult Self Skills Defined
- Switching the Dominance Protocol Worksheet
- The DNMS Attachment Needs Ladder
- The Conference Room Map
- Conference Room Protocol Worksheet
- Needs Meeting Protocol Worksheet
- Needs Meeting Protocol: Session Notes
- Some Typical Misunderstandings That Block Processing
- Overcoming Processing Blocks Flowchart
Appendix F: DNMS Tools & Home Study Course...............................255
Index..............................................................................................................................258