Professional Discussion List

This listserv provides free support for psychotherapists wishing to develop their DNMS skills. List members can send and receive DNMS-related e-mails to and from other list members. Shirley Jean Schmidt provides input on most of the clinical cases presented. Even list members who do not post questions, benefit greatly by reading the questions and answers posted by others. Only psychotherapists who purchase a DNMS book or a webinar, or attend a DNMS training, are eligible to enroll.
To join, send an email to with the following information:

  • Your name.
  • Your psychotherapy license (SW, LPC, LMFT, or Psychologist).
  • Your license number.
  • The state/province where you are licensed.
  • Indicate approximately when you purchased the book or webinar, or attended a training

Discussion List Information and Guidelines

About the List

This list began in May 2002. There are currently over 900 DNMS list members.

List Mission

This list is a forum for discussing the DNMS. Related topics may be discussed briefly, but not extensively. This is not to diminish the importance of other topics. There are other e-mail lists better suited for other topics.

How to Post Messages

  • Address list posts to Your message will be sent to all list members.
  • To respond to a message posted on the list, click on the “Reply to” button in your email app. The reply will go to all list members.
  • To post a message to the sender only, click on the “Reply to Sender” link at the bottom of the email.

Posting Suggestions

  • If you are e-mailing a comment about a particular section of a previous post, quote what is relevant from the original message and delete the rest. In addition to the consideration of others, people will probably be more likely to read your message if they don’t have to sort through all the text from previous messages.
  • When replying to a previous message, please make sure the subject header is still appropriate. Sometimes the subject of a discussion changes while the subject header remains the same. Other list members may miss out on the discussion because the subject header does not adequately describe the content of the message.
  • Please do not write posts in all capital letters. It feels like being screamed at.

This is a Moderated List

All posts are screened by the moderator before being released to all list members. Only posts relevant to the mission of the list will be posted.

No Personal Attacks

Personal attacks are not acceptable. Posts with disrespectful comments will be not be shared with list members.

Posting Referral Requests

Post referral requests with your e-mail address in the body of the post, so responders can contact you directly. For example: “I am looking for a DNMS-trained therapist in City, State. Anyone interested, please contact me at” Be mindful not to include too much information about the client, to ensure confidentiality. The subject line of your post should include the city name, for example: “Referral request for City, State.”


You are responsible for maintaining client confidentiality. Please disguise clients in any clinical material you post.

Get Permission to Forward Posts

Do not repost any message from this list to anyone else, or to any other mailing list, unless you have express permission of the message’s author. Also, descriptions of discussions taking place on this list should not be posted elsewhere without express permission of the moderator.

Posting Clutter

If you feel compelled to post a message like “Thanks for saying XXX,” “I agree with XXX”, or “I support XXX,” consider whether you should send the post to the person who impressed you. If you must send it to the list, please include some new information that all subscribers will find relevant.

DNMS List Footer

Check the footer of each post for helpful links. ID

You do not have to sign up with to participate in the listserve. However, with a account, you can change your account settings yourself and review all prior posts to the DNMS list. Please note that with the changeover from Yahoo to, the old posts on Yahoo are no longer available. To get a ID, go to, click on “Log In”. Enter your email address you are using for posting. You will not have a password yet so click on “Forgot your password” and follow the instructions from there. Then, make a bookmark of the DNMS Group site, so you can review the archives anytime you wish. If you have trouble with this process, e-mail Shirley Jean at

Daily Digest Mode

List members can receive individual e-mails or a daily digest of e-mails. The digest summarizes all the day’s list e-mails in one e-mail received once a day. If you have a ID, you can make the setting changes yourself, or e-mail a request backchannel to

Temporarily Suspending Your Account

If you have a ID you can set your account to “No Mail” then back to “Individual E-Mails” whenever you wish.

Unsubscribing From the List

To unsubscribe from this group, click on the “Unsubscribe” link at the bottom of a posting. If you have trouble unsubscribing your old address, Shirley Jean can remove it from the list.

Changing Your Email Address

If you need to change your email address, email Shirley Jean at She will add your new email address to the group. Or, get a ID and change it yourself.

Is Group Mail Spam?

Some e-mail accounts will filter out list posts after classifying it as spam. If you suddenly stop getting list posts, you may need to check your spam settings or contact your e-mail service provider.